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Why Love Always Seems to Fail?

1Cor.13:7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 13:8b. Love never fails.

We’ve all have heard the very progressive statements being used in our world about marriage something unheard of just 50-years ago, which is, “Marriage is the first step towards divorce”.

There are many renditions of this thought, but all of them acknowledge a truth that for some reason when a person gets married a change occurs, and slowly the marriage become poisoned and many of them ends in divorce, and if not in divorce, they becomes little more than an arrangement for finical stability and/or familiarity. The question is has love fail, if we are told by God that love cannot fail?

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Seriously do we know why love always seems to fail us in this world? There are basic functions in all of us which works like this; functions that are undeniable laws governing all of us from birth into death.

When we love someone they can do no wrong, but when we marry a person love starts to becomes an obligation, which then confused most of us about what love really is? Usually at this point love is given only if the person meets an obligations. Please note, with obligations personal rights are taken away and are traded for in the name of love!

Obligations Take They Don’t Give

1 John 4:16 We know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and he who remains in love remains in God, and God remains in him.

That is a truth, as hard as it is to hear, but the truth is none of us can perform perfectly, but for a few moments in time when it comes to love; usually while dating. In that moment we experience the very best in life from ourselves and the person we love. This fundamental truth follows into everything we do, into our friendships, into a new home, a new car, a job, a new person in our life, right into what is trending on social media.

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But then the up keep sets in (obligations), and the love slowly diminishes into obligation, the newness is gone and reality hits when we have to put forth real effort to keep the new car, new, or home in good repair.

1 John 5:2 By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and keep his commandments.

It is as if we are programmed to seek an idol of love, but soon the idol becomes tainted and dull and we fall into obligations towards it, and what we once loved, we now want to distance ourselves from, we want distance in our minds and heart from the constant obligations of keeping the thing new or being reminded of what it was like when it was new.

John 13:34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, just like I have loved you; that you also love one another.

Obligations Creates Resentment and Hate

When a person obligates us we intrinsically know they don’t love us, but how? Because there is no need for obligations if the person really loves us. Yes, its true, think about it for a moment, people that love us will obligate themselves too us without being told they enjoy doing things for us so they obligate themselves to us with no effort but joy. Yes, as idealistic as that sounds it is nevertheless the truth.
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An obligation really nothing more then a demand that we be treated by others in a certain way, now get this? Which is, in reality a law, a principle, or a condition that we hold dear, and if the persons really loves us they will meet our conditions. and/or they have violated our dignity, and proven they don’t really love us!

Ephesians 2:15 having abolished in the flesh the hostility, the law of commandments contained in ordinances, that he might create in himself one new man of the two, making peace

The problem is we are saying wittingly or unwittingly that the person doesn’t love us, so we are now resorting to demands to obligating them to do something for us to prove that they love us, which in turn, they should have done in the first place without our having to ask them. In other words, it becomes a self-fulling prophecy that must happen by our own conditions of love!

Suddenly we have a resentment in us, because they are disrespecting us and our love, and they to have a resentment in them because we are telling them that their love isn’t enough and they should just trust us if they loved us. In that we find a bottomless pit of quicksand and the more we judge the deeper we sink into the quicksand of resentment leading to hate!

Matt.7:2 For with whatever judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with whatever measure you measure, it will be measured to you.
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The lie of Religion and Psychology

Both religion and psychology want us to believe that the more we talk about a problem, and/or the more bible understanding we gain the quicksand will go away. In other words, by setting up rules and guidelines we can build a cement slab over the quicksand and save our marriage and/or a relationship.

But the problem is that love is based on trust, i.e., faith in the other person or its not love!

Proverbs 17:9 He who covers an offense promotes love; but he who repeats a matter separates best friends.

We talk a lot in today's society and never have we been more divided!

Thus, the sales people of the relationship program hold out their icons of good marriage and/or friendship; those with the happy marriage to prove their counsel, teachings, and books really work, and if we want them to work for us we must take them seriously, engaging ourselves into deep study of their guidelines which become laws to gain a loving marriage.

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The truth is the person will either become a hypocrites, a phony where they act the part, which will becomes more important than the truth that it not working, and/or exhausted themselves with the endless meaningless rules and laws that don’t work in removing the quicksand, but rather will actually drags the person deeper into the muddy pit of hell because they now have a much keener insight in seeing how far short their mate or friend isn’t trying at all!

Jeremiah 10:12 He has made the earth by his power, he has established the world by his wisdom, and by his understanding has he stretched out the heavens:

1 Corinthians 3:19 For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God. For it is written, "He has taken the wise in their craftiness."{Job 5:13}

James 3:17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceful, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.

The simple truth is that their first love is gone when they had no demands creating obligations; forgetting how wonderful it was being together and just trusting each other without all the words. At that point nothing else matter but the persons love, love solve it all.

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Yes, in that glorious state of love we could not think anything bad of them or that anything bad would come from them, but now we have resentment in how badly we have been taken in, hoodwinked, by a false love because they will not meet our obligations to prove they love us!

1 John 4:12 No one has seen God at any time. If we love one another, God remains in us, and his love has been perfected in us.

1 Peter 4:8 And above all things be earnest in your love among yourselves, for love covers a multitude of sins.

Matt. 7:1 "Don't judge, so that you won't be judged.

But once in that mud hole of resentment we will always have the lingering dirt of past broken obligations suck on us, and each, and every time the person tries we will go back to the same mud hole. Because is much harder to love in faith and trust then making obligation which are laws we enforce based on material fact that they have broken them!

But by this time we will hid our resentment, and even lie to ourselves denying we are right back into the same old mud hole that we cannot learn our way out or solve by more obligations.

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Yet, we still demand them to meet our obligations so we can then love them like we used too, and they can prove they love us like they use to. In other words, we can’t live with the truth, so we take the safe course of more guidelines and obligations because we are not going to get fooled again are we?

2 Timothy 3:7 always learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.

James 3:14 But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, don't boast and don't lie against the truth.

The light The Truth Is?

We all want to be loved unconditionally, but none of us can do it! All of us can clearly see how others person is not loving us unconditionally, but few of us, and for that matter any of us can see we don’t love others unconditionally either, but rather it is our emotions that just won’t allow us to admit we are not any more fair and just in our demands than they are!

2 Corinthians 10:12 For we are not bold to number or compare ourselves with some of those who commend themselves. But they themselves, measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves with themselves, are without understanding.

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And in that statement is found one of the greatest evil in mankind, which is, those of us who want others to believe how great our love is for them, while demanding them to love us according to our conditions/obligations we have put on them so we will reciprocate love too them. No! we just can’t omit in our own hearts we only love them if they do what we want them do for us, because that sounds really selfish and we know it does!

Romans.13:8 Owe no one anything, except to love one another; for he who loves his neighbor has fulfilled the law.

But if we love the truth our claims to love like God or how we want to be love doesn’t hold up. What we are showing in actions and word is not God’s love at all it is rather an idea of love we think is a universal truth, but in reality it only an idol of love that has been created by this worlds view of love giving us a concept of how others should love us.

It is but a phony idol that when tested by real love it vanishes into the concert rules, laws and obligations without love.

However, God’s love says love always hurts us first, because we don’t want to hurt the person we love, so we ask the honest question can we love like a want to be loved?
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John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.

In that statement we should see that none of us are God, or God’s love, in fact, the truth is God is love, so truth comes from love which makes it is the truth we must know that in our heart.

It is God’s love that should move us to know our human condition in sin that none of us love like God, we all fall very far short of God’s glory, for God is love, and his glory is his love, and if we don’t know love, well, than, we don’t know who? God, who is perfect love.

Now one would think that should cause us a little humility, but it doesn’t when pride and emotions of denied love gets in our way!

James.1:16 Don't be deceived, my beloved brothers. 1:17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom can be no variation, nor turning shadow. 1:18 Of his own will he brought us forth by the word of truth, that we should be a kind of first fruits of his creatures. 1:19 So, then, my beloved brothers, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger; 1:20 for the anger of man doesn't produce the righteousness of God.

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We cannot uses the excuse we are human while demanding perfect love from others!

If two people both understand what the truth is about themselves first, and not the other person, that is, all humans not just us fall short of God’s glory, then, and only then, problems can be solved in humility, but such rarely is the case in this crazy world of sin and selfishness.

People accept the faults of their pets sometime gross actions of their pets because they is no moral obligation not to be meant for love!

To have a history of person meeting our obligations is very sweet thing and rare indeed to fine, but that does not prove they love us. We all hold this misconception and we apply it to others, and also to God all the time. Many people take great pride in doing things on time and in keeping their promises based upon their own values, but it has nothing to do with them loving us, but of self-respect, and/or perhaps self love!

One may have many people in their lives they can depend on if they need something, but that is not necessarily love, and we will find that out as soon as they don’t meet one of our conditions for friendship, then the truth comes up like a fire storm that burn up the entire relationship in a heart beat!
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James.3:5 So the tongue is also a little member, and boasts great things. See how a small fire can spread to a large forest! 3:6 And the tongue is a fire. The world of iniquity among our members is the tongue, which defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature, and is set on fire by Gehenna.{or, Hell}

We see this happening all the time, and time again people declaring their endless love for each others, and within moments they don’t even like the person at all, why? Because we don’t have despite how deep we think our endless love is, or boast in it, we simply can’t do it, our love burns out quickly when an obligation isn’t meantt! But our own need for love gets in the way of objectivity. Thus, none of us should become offended when we are told we can’t be God’s or his love for that matter, nor can we produce the love that comes down from about in perfect peace!

God has never said anywhere that we have endless love. No! He does not lie because he is love. What He tells us is the truth of the human condition born into sin that leads all of us into death that all of our loving kindness is but a moment, like a flower of the field; here today and gone tomorrow.

Isa.40:5 And the glory of the LORD shall be revealed, and all flesh together shall see it: for the mouth of the LORD hath spoken it. 40:6 The voice said, Cry. And he said, What shall I cry? All flesh is grass, and all its goodliness is as the flower of the field:

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40:7 The grass withereth, the flower fadeth: because the spirit of the LORD bloweth upon it: surely the people is grass. 40:8 The grass withereth, the flower fadeth: but the word of our God shall shall stand forever.

2 Corinthians 10:17 But "he who boasts, let him boast in the Lord."{Jeremiah 9:24}

Yet, so many of us think that our love is God’s endless love so we stupidly compare our love with others thinking it is God’s love leaving us in disappointment with a weak idol (ourselves) that always fails. which isn’t worth defending or worshiping because human love is nothing but obligations constantly broken like shadows under a being tree. Yet, we teach it as God’s love that other should put complete trust in which is a complete hoax because none of us can be or live up to the perfect love of God.

Philippians 2:16 holding up the word of life; that I may have something to boast in the day of Christ, that I didn't run in vain nor labor in vain.

We not only lie to others about our endless love, but to ourselves unlike the apostle Paul who said nothing good dwelt in his flesh, and Christ who told us only God is good because God is love, so he is only good. Now that is the real truth of YHWH not us or our love, and so Paul just like us needed a whole lot of forgiveness.
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Comparing ourselves against a broken object so we can feel better about our love is really a fools game that bring nothing but false hope!

1 Corinthians 4:7 For who makes you different? And what do you have that you didn't receive? But if you did receive it, why do you boast as if you had not received it?

Our Best Isn’t Good Enough

Our best is not good enough, and we should stop thinking it is. The truth is, Christ is good enough for all of us, and he has purchased our lives into salvation because he was good enough.

Our best will never be good enough, and anyone that loves us should know that. On the other hand, we should accept that truth about them as well. If we are judged by God that we all lack in love, why should we demand what we are lacking in, love from anyone or any creation?

John 6:63 It is the spirit who gives life. The flesh profits nothing. The words that I speak to you are spirit, and are life.
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We all love the golden rule but very few us actually live by it, particularly when it comes to personal relationship!

Romans 7:18 For I know that in me, that is, in my flesh, dwells no good thing. For desire is present with me, but I don't find it doing that which is good.

Do we honestly understand why we can so clearly see the speak in our brother eye, but not in our own?

It’s because we think they are obligated too us because of our deep and great love we have towards them, and that is what God calls a fools game when he tells us that none of us have enough love to redeem ourselves let alone someone else, in that message should tells us something about the truth in us that it is not the truth of God we cannot be totally fair and just because we read the bible and we can keenly see how far short someone else doesn’t meet God’s love.

The truth of God is given from above to us by Spirit and truth, why! Because God is love, and he is Spirit and truth. Our feeling of love to not match or come close to the perfect truth of God’s love which is perfect light and peace!
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There is no darkness or corruption in God’s love not what in us, we mustn’t judge God like us. He is only like us if we were created without sin by God’s hand, by his perfect will as a son of God.

2 Corinthians 13:5 Test your own selves, whether you are in the faith. Test your own selves. Or don't you know as to your own selves, that Jesus Christ is in you?--unless indeed you are disqualified.

John 8:15 You judge according to the flesh. I judge no one.
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Being offended because we think we can judge God’s love that he feels and identify with our sins that somehow makes God into a corruptible human dying like us in sin leaves us with no way out of death and sin. Thus, for us to think God’s love is our love based on the sins of human emotion in fears and hates found in our flesh that is against the Spirit is a very dangerous proposition.

Romans 8:7 because the mind of the flesh is hostile towards God; for it is not subject to God's law, neither indeed can it be.
Romans 8:8 Those who are in the flesh can't please God.
Romans 8:9 But you are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if it is so that the Spirit of God dwells in you. But if any man doesn't have the Spirit of Christ, he is not his.

How can we judge our love as righteous when we all fall short of God’s glory, and none of us our righteous?
Do we get it? It is in God’s love that he gives us unmerited kindness, because we have no merit in our love, we live in an unrighteous body undergoing death by sin that we must be saved out of by His love.

We must be saved from what? Now think about it seriously because everyone is trying to save someone else by their deep love? It is from ourselves that is what we must be saved from not our neighbor, our mate, or our friends, how are we saved?

It is by the living power of Christ life in us that gives us what? His merit of a perfect life without sin. Yes, its true, read your bible, we are saved in Christ righteousness, not in our love for him, but his love for us, which love is righteous.

It really is a one-way street we bring nothing to the table, we have no merit in us, we must be given merit if we have nothing to offer to gain us merit!

It was Christ love for his Father that was perfect it wasn’t and obligation, but his unadulterated pure sacrifice of love which is an unspeakable gift given to us living in sin something only the most Holy can value because he is love!

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1 Peter 1:10 Concerning this salvation, the prophets sought and searched diligently, who prophesied of the grace that would come to you.

Philemon 1:3 Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.

Titus 2:11 For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation to all men.

2 Timothy 1:9 who saved us and called us with a holy calling, not according to our works, but according to his own purpose and grace, which was given to us in Christ Jesus before times eternal.

Now if we our obligated to love God, than we don’t know God, because he is love, and that is a fearful thing is it not?

So in that fear in how far we miss the mark of his goodness and love, that should commends us into faith in grace. We put faith not in our goodness, or anyone else so called unconditional love, but in the one true and faithful witnesses Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior.

2 Thessalonians 1:12 that the name of our Lord Jesus{TR adds "Christ"} may be glorified in you, and you in him, according to the grace of our God and the Lord Jesus Christ.
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Ephesians 6:24 Grace be with all those who love our Lord Jesus Christ with incorruptible love. Amen.

The problem of lack of love in all of us leads us into confusing obligations as God’s love, but such obligation love will never eradicated the problems of fleshly love, and meet the power of life in us, in Christ Jesus in God’s free gift of love. No! What it does is make for a huge field of weeds that produce more weed, and there seeds that have been sown into all the world so human obligation love is a fundamental elements and fiber of this world.

But it is not the incorruptible love of God which there can be no laws of the flesh against. There is nothing in our flesh that can restrict God’s love, because His love is not of this world.

Let us remember flesh cannot undue flesh, weeds cannot undue weeds.

So that means the love of this world by human wisdom and education found in every relationship we have on this earth cannot fix this world. It is an inferior love which make ever relationship we have filled with much tribulation because that is what sin is, it is a lack of love for God and each other, which as we know causes a war between flesh and the Spirit which is tribulation in our flesh; there is no peace of God in our flesh just judgments and obligations that bring discontentment and war!

Galatians 5:17 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, that you may not do the things that you desire.

But if we are honest with ourselves and others, we will not make a pretense of our great love that going to set them free? If we do so we are a liar, and the truth isn’t in us, what we are doing is making ourselves a false religion, an idol by trying to replace the love of God with our own love, which cannot be done nor will it cure sin in any of us. We should not lead others including ourselves down a road of worshiping the creation rather than the creator for a very low form of corrupted benevolence!

1 Peter 1:21 who through him are believers in God, who raised him from the dead, and gave him glory; so that your faith and hope might be in God.

1 Peter 1:24 For, "All flesh is like grass, and all of man's glory like the flower in the grass. The grass withers, and its flower falls;

1 Peter 4:11 If anyone speaks, let it be as it were the very words of God. If anyone serves, let it be as of the strength which God supplies, that in all things God may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom belong the glory and the dominion forever and ever. Amen.

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Romans.1:21 Because, knowing God, they didn't glorify him as God, neither gave thanks, but became vain in their reasoning, and their senseless heart was darkened. 1:22 Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools, 1:23 and traded the glory of the incorruptible God for the likeness of an image of corruptible man, and of birds, and four-footed animals, and creeping things.

The time is coming and it is now, and it has been for more then 2000-years that God is making all things “NEW” starting with Christ and ending in us. Then and only then will all things be done in love, where we won’t hurt each other nor bring tears sorrow or death to anyone because of lack of love.
We will not then foolishly demand perfect love from anyone, simply, because we will be filled with the perfect free gift of God’s love, removing the unclean sacrifice of obligation love created by sins in our flesh.

Then we ourselves will be givers of God’s perfect gift of free love and in that all pain, sorrow, and death will be removed from mankind and the rivers of life will once again flow from God too us.

Let the healing begin, come quickly Lord Jesus!

Revelation 22:1 He showed me a{TR adds "pure"} river of water of life, clear as crystal, proceeding out of the throne of God and of the Lamb.
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Revelation 22:2 in the middle of its street. On this side of the river and on that was the tree of life, bearing twelve kinds of fruits, yielding its fruit every month. The leaves of the tree were for the healing of the nations.

Revelation 21:4 He will wipe away from them every tear from their eyes. Death will be no more; neither will there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain, any more. The first things have passed away."

Revelation 21:2 I saw the holy city, New Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, made ready like a bride adorned for her husband.

Revelation 21:5 He who sits on the throne said, "Behold, I am making all things new." He said, "Write, for these words of God are faithful and true."

Completed: April 16, 2020

by Daniel a Slave of Christ Jesus

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