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Cristine Dean
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Updated November 2, 2019
Former Psycology Geek

What creates jealousy in a narcissist?

All these answers here are 100% true and confirmed by my own experience. Whatever you have and they don't have, will create jealousy. There can be material things that the narcissist IS jealous of, but there can also be your family and Friends, your social abilities. If you are a loved and respected member in your community, the narcissist will abuse you behind close Doors, he will project and gaslight you and make you feel like you're the meanest person on Earth. If you have a reputation of beeing smart, the narcissist will implement all his tricks in bringing you down and winning over you just to demostrate that he IS smarter than you by any un-ethical means.

My ex was first fascinated by my achievements, but the day I discovered his cheating and I made it clear that I won’t tolerate that behaviour, I became the worst woman in the world: in his mind I was selfish and arrogant. Selfish for asking for monogamy?! Plus, the fact that I didn't want to share my money and property with him drove him crazy. There's no way I would share everything that I worked so hard for with a cheating bastard!

He then played humble, got hooked with some girls from his neighbourhood and posted on Facebook things like: people with a career or money are so fake and they live a fake Life. Double standards till death! While the only fake in this story IS the narcissist, who plays the good samaritan, at the beginning acting so grateful to be part of your world, then he behaves mean and demonizing in the devalue and discard phase. While all he wanted was to suck you dry and when there's nothing left to drain, or you won't let him suck..haha, he will label you as mean or whatever makes him regulate his self esteem.

They LOVE to associate with people who are more successful than them, but if those people don't have at least the same degree of narcissism that the narcissist has, the narcissist won't respect them. Cause the narcissist respects only people who are as fake and superficial as him. You could have studied in Harvard, but if you don't wear designer clothes, if you don't eat out at 5* restaurants, if you are quiet and don't do drugs and of course if you don't spend your money on all these luxuries for the narcissist, then you are a pathetic prick. He will label you as worthless only for not wearing designer clothes, not having a tattoo and not doing synth drugs. You’ll be worthless in his eyes if you don't wear your hair perfect every day, cause he’s the one who spends 2 hours in front of the mirror even when he takes the garbage off.

He’ll still envy your position. But he will think that you are stupid and that you've got there due to a stroke of luck. The narcissist will never understand that you don't wear designer clothes because in your world there are more important things to spend your money on, like your family, your Friends, travelling to discover new cultures..etc. The narcissist won't understand that you don't exhibit a perfect hair because you work 60 hours a week and there are more important things for you to do than to sit in front of the mirror during 1 hour a day doing your hair.

The narcissist will even envy you for your body. The thing that he first loved and attracted him to you, he will hate in the devalue stage. Especially if he's not in such a good shape. My ex was blessed to have a pretty face, blue eyes. But he was the laziest man I've met. While I have always been a fit girl. If you have a perfect body, the narcissist will say that you have an ugly face and will label you as an ugly duck. As superficial as they seem, the narcissist can leave a model type woman for a XXL girl in the devaluation stage. Cause in his mind he plays: “How dare you look better than me?”. So, yes the narcissist will even hate you for your beauty or your body. The narcissist can even envy you for your teeth. As crazy as it sounds. The narcissist first told me how he loved my smile. I have straight and beautiful teeth, while his were crooked and ugly. He ended up discarding me for 3 girls. All the 3 of them had crooked teeth, like him. Finding 3 supplies that didn't look a bit like me was his way of telling me how much he hated me.

He cannot steal your beauty (even if on the long run he does), he cannot steal your knowledge, he cannot steal your career, he will try to steal your house and car and if you're smart enough and won't let him, his last resort will be to label you as mean. The narcissist doesn't understand that we, normal people who work very hard to have a job, a House and good commodities are very willing to share everything with that special person. But under no circunstances that person IS someone Who betrays US, a cheating and lying BASTARD.

Whatever you do with and for a narcissist, IS a failure. He will feel repelled by anything that you lack/don't have and he will feel jealousy for everything that you have.

They only break the walls that took US years to build. If you're an empath, stay NC Forever!

(Cause only a psychopath or another narcissist can handle all the Malignant mess that he IS).