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Jason Hancock
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May 14, 2019

Diesel Mechanic at TA Truck Service (2019–present)

Why does the narcissist view you as the enemy when you truly loved them?

Narcissist deep down are the most jealous and shameful people you will ever meet. They create a fictional world in their mind because they fee they are unloveable or not good enough as the regular person they are. This is cause by trama as a child where one or both parents did not show enough love and attention to them which caused part of the frontal lobe of the brain where true emotions, and whole object constancy function. They do not feel empathy, real love, sympathy, or basic feelings as you and I do. And they hate us because they know they will never feel or understand those feelings for themselves.

When you fall in love with a narcissist they are projecting or faking what they think love should look or feel like. They are acting as a mirror of your emotions and actions making you feel like it is the perfect relationship. But in truth you are merely feeding them the fuel they need making you the supply. You are like the drug dealer and as long as they are getting what they want they will be back. But as soon as you stop providing or don’t provide enough or as fast as they want. They start looking elsewhere for that high.

As all relationships have the honeymoon period where it’s cloud 9. They also level off and gave a routine or normalcy to them. That is what most of us want is someone that knows us hat well that two people function as one. But with a narcissist once you get the that level ground they get bored and are looking for that high again and they will cheat, lie, steal or do whatever it takes to get it.

And because they have no empathy. They do not care who they hurt or destroy to get it. Nothing is ever their fault and they will never admit fault to anything. Instead they put all their energy into a smear campaign making you look crazy, abusive, violent, and you are the issue causing all the problems. That way they can be out there playing the victim for all the side pieces they are sleeping with and flirting with daily.

It is not and never was about you. It is always about them. They don’t hate you they hate themselves but because they have to keep the mask on they have made that everyone thinks is the real them. They have to keep the game going and believe me EVERYTHING WITH THEM IS A GAME. They may feel shame for what they are doing or have done. When they do they run but they make sure your life is ran in the ground before they do. That way after enough time has passed they believe you will forgive them or forgotten what they did and stroll right back like nothing ever happen.

To a narcissist everyone is an enemy because they have to be number one. And they always will win. Because the line that most people would never cross they crossed long before you knew what was happening to you. They put months into setting you up as the bad guy. And they will reap the fruits of their labor. Just like they spent that much time and effort into grooming you to be their primary source of supply. They may discard you for awhile. But in their mind you belong to them. And even though they don’t want you right now doesn’t mean anyone else can have you. They want you waiting for them to come back that way when they choose to your right there arms out to hold them and make them feel special again.

They hate because they do not know how to love. And it’s ya the victims that pays the price for this. We get treated like shit and walked all over. We get ran down and emotionally, mentally, and physically abused. But when we start to build ourselves back up and get a new great life without them and they see that they want us back.

Be strong learn all you can about them and no contact. Learn how to protect yourself. There is a slim chance they may never return. But more than likely months or even years later they will come looking to hoover you right back in the cycle of abuse. The best thing you can do is not be reachable for them when they try. The best revenge is surviving and thriving and being even happier without them. They hate that because it shows they aren’t the best thing in the world.

Good luck and be strong. My love and prayers are with you always.