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MAIN TALK UNDERSTANDING GOD THE SCRIPTURES

Examining Teaching of JW's > Ironically enough, narcissists make you depend on them by regulating your self-esteem.

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Sophia Bell

Answered 5h ago

Ironically enough, narcissists make you depend on them by regulating your self-esteem.

When you first meet the narcissist, they build you up to a, never before experienced, high.

They validate you and your existence to the extent of that of a Hollywood star.

The things they tell you about yourself are beautiful, things you never heard before. At least, not as poetic or dramatic.

Of course, such flattery and adoration are highly addictive, who wouldn't want to be put on a pedestal, praised and worshipped for the person that they are.

The partner starts looking to the narcissist to validate them, like only the narcissist can.

Subconsciously, they make the narcissist the judge of their value. Because the narcissist rules fairly, the narcissist judges their value the highest anyone as ever judged it. Even higher than the partner themselves.

The partner starts depending on the narcissist to boost their self-esteem, self-worth and value.

Then the dreaded plot twist….

The partner never considered the fact that the narcissist could change their mind about value.

The partner is now dependent on the narcissist for their value to the narcissist, to themselves and in general.

When the partner is soaring high above the rest of the world population for a while, using the wings that the narcissist attached to them.

Devaluation sets in, the narcissist takes back those wings, and the partner loses altitude with the speed of a crashing airplane.

The narcissist changed their mind about the partners value. They're judged less than the homeless bum that sits outside goodwill.

And because the partner has programmed themselves to believe the narcissists assessment of their value, they start feeling worthless.

From that day on, the partner starts begging and pleading with the narcissist to please see and raise their value again. To validate them.

That's one of the most intricate ways the partner will be dependent on the narcissist.

July 10, 2021 | Registered CommenterJWsStraightTalk