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Douglas Frederick

Survivor of a lifetime of chronic narcisistic abuse. Updated June 23

How can you tell a person is a narcissist?
Narcissistic personality disorder involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. There isn’t one red flag, there has to be a pattern of red flags. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding.

Ask them a question about their ex partner. Such as: What did you like best about your ex? If the answer is “she laid my clothes out every day and she cooked great meals.” Anything that has to do with them and nothing to do with Love or a relationship this is a huge sign.

Generally if a person talks down about others, constantly asks you questions and if you ask them anything personal they tell you nothing, gossips, is all or nothing kind of thinking (one side is evil, other is all good), is charismatic, etc…

The most important thing to keep in mind is this: if the person feels off, they’re off, if you think there’s something wrong with this person there is something wrong, if your gut thinks they’re a narcissist they are. If you already know the answer, that’s your answer!! Use your inner voice (gut feelings) as your guide instead of your intellect, its never wrong.

Nine Signs and Symptoms of Narcissism

Grandiosity. Exaggerated sense of self-importance. ...
Excessive need for admiration. ...
Superficial and exploitative relationships. ...
Lack of empathy. ...
Identity disturbance. ...
Difficulty with attachment and dependency. ...
Chronic feelings of emptiness and boredom. ...
Vulnerability to life transitions.