Jehovah's Witnesses Straight Talk - Forum/Blog

December 03, 2019

“If one does not know the boundaries of a matter how can they find the middle ground? Experiencing extremes gives us the middle ground; our painful experiences defines for us what is reasonable, what is fair, and it is how God brings us to the wisdom in Christ.”

James.3:2 For in many things we all stumble. If anyone doesn't stumble in word, the same is a perfect man, able to bridle the whole body also.

James.3:17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceful, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. 3:18 Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.

Psalms 37:24 Though he stumble, he shall not fall, for Yahweh holds him up with his hand.

Matthew 24:10 Then many will stumble, and will deliver up one another, and will hate one another.

Rom. 8:35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Could oppression, or anguish, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? 8:36 Even as it is written, "For your sake we are killed all day long. We were accounted as sheep for the slaughter."{Psalm 44:22} 8:37 No, in all these things, we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 8:38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers,
8:39 nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Facts: Addiction to helping others: The other person has violated numerous agreements, required many bailouts, and hasn’t used the help to do as promised.

The help or giving helps someone to stagnate, or become stuck in an age-inappropriate stage of development, or prevents them from developing needed life or professional skills. Your helping or giving requires your dishonesty or somehow compromises your integrity.
You have the distinct impression you’re being manipulated into helping or giving our help is increasingly unsustainable given your resources. After helping or giving to someone, the relationship with the person has deteriorated due to bad feelings involving the helping or giving relationship. Your helpful accommodations make it easier for someone to remain physically unhealthy, put off getting professional help, avoid taking their medication or working their program, etc.

Your help or giving in a group setting fails to inspire a cooperative group culture where everyone helps one another; instead, it leads others to slack and leaves you feeling taken advantage of.
You find that what you intended as a one-time, modest offer of help or giving has morphed into an unintended long-term obligation that you resent or find burdensome. You’re in a self-sacrificing relationship that reeks of “codependence.” You’re willing to overlook the ill effects of your helping and giving because it makes you feel or look like a “good” person. Facts by Shawn M. Burn Ph.D.

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