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This will be a series of articles on dating mainly directed at an older group that have lost a mate, and/or gone through divorce and are starting dating again after many years of not dating.

As society moral drop Narcissism sky rockets into an all time high an endemic of me first behavior that never works in any relationship, phones, texting, dating sites, social media has created a no contact society which is a no tolerance society that destroy friendships and relationship simply because people don’t have to say it to someone face.

Understanding the science of human biological behavior is something most Christian’s find offensive nevertheless it plays out in their own relationship rather they like the facts of not.

After a number of thought provoking facts are stated we will provide God’s view of marriage by scriptural truths of God’s word the bible.

Dating Inexplicable Conduct

Dating is out of sorts. Inexplicable conduct by normal people, listening to experts some mystery are revealed. As a society woman believe giving a man sex they lose, not giving a man sex they win, who wants to be a loser?

10% of men are in the breeding pool, they are also the most powerful, and masculine, female chemistry wants to mate in that group, but they aren’t good candidates for long term relationships for obvious reasons. That leaves the rest the majority of men that will lavish woman with praise for sex, but woman know they are not longer term either.

Woman won’t settle, they go on with life waiting the perfect guy in the 10% group which their age becomes a factor, because the 10% group mate with younger woman with a body type, just like woman wanting the 10% men group

Older woman wants a male friend, actually a male-girl-friend without feeling of losing over sex. Woman are the gate keeper of sex rewarding men for good behavior. Men are placed on a strict diet of little no sex in normal relationship, so having a buddy relationship with a woman means all the work with no reward.

These are the silent games society rules played and why so many people are alone and only 20% of people are married in nuclear family.

Les Pearson
August 31, 2020
Your story rings with many other voices. It is because modern society and social culture has sold us a pack of lies. From how we are supposed to date and screen, to how we should behave, to what to expect, even what a good or great relationship even is.

I ask if you notice the pattern in your story. You went immediately from frying pan to flame over several relationships. It would be easy to assume it is the result of just taking a sampling of the populace of men and 99.9% are just horrible. Trust me a lot of men are in the same boat and reciprocate the same feelings. It isn't a function of their being so many terrible people that good one's are so very rare. Great potential partners are literally everywhere. You aren't sorting for them. I speak from personal experience, I used to attract duesy's. The issue isn't the sad state of the world it is the sad state of ourselves, and that's a bitter pill to swallow.

We are sold on the Disney experience, and women are told to get it by being strong and playing hard to get. While everyone likes to be pursued and that is surely part of the fun of courtship and even a healthy aspect of an ongoing relationship, playing too many mind games, and having what the self would describe as “high standards” actually sets your filter to attract sociopaths and narcissists.

Many people push mannered ladies and gentlemen out of their lives because their mental filter is set to search for “The One” willing to go to some sort of romantic extreme to win them, or fulfill some lofty grand ideal. Narcissists love that game. It's easy for them to win initially. Of course they can't keep the ruse up, but who cares? they won, initially anyway.

How many people on the dating field have a 50 check point list about their requirement for a potential partner? I have seen wish lists that include height, hair color, eye color, income, pets, clothing style, music preference, the exact type of car they drive… ad nuaseum.

Standards and list are not bad of themselves. It is how they are made and utilized that makes them a help or a detriment. Make a list of the top 10 positive characteristics you most admire, and want in a partner. Take material goods, consumer items, and cultural style completely out of the equation. Look at that top 10 list and become that person. Make a bottom 10 list of the things you absolutely will not accept, and eradicate those behaviors in yourself. It's super simple. However, it is not easy. It requires brutal honesty with yourself. It requires letting go of ego, and facing deep inner issues you don't want to admit you have, especially to yourself. Those deep issues are the ones that actually shine like a beacon to all the sociopaths and narcissists you're attracting. You struggle to see them, but they aren't so well hidden as you think.

A professional counsellor or behavioral psychologist can be immense help. Later on a good dating coach can be very helpful. Vet them however. If they only tell you touchy feely things you like to hear they are more interested in your money than your growth. A good counsellor will tell you things you won't like, and likely will struggle to accept. They are there to help you see yourself. The good, the bad, and the ugly. The hardest person to know in life is yourself, and also the most important. Be the change you wish to see. Once you have yourself sorted out you actually become repellant to abusers, users, and flakes. Quality people will now swarm you like the narcissist and abuser once did.

I wish you peace and contentment on your journey

The United States might have hit its lowest marriage rate in more than 100 years in 2020, but the popularity of reality television shows such as “Married at First Sight” and new research show that it’s not a lack of desire among adults to get married that is causing the slump, but a struggle among many to find the right partner. And this struggle could put the nation at risk in the long run.

New data show that a decline in the marriage rate goes hand in hand with a decline in the fertility rate. Researchers are now warning that without appropriate interventions, a continuous slide in the nation’s fertility rate will lead to the aging and shrinking of the U.S. population, a decline in productivity and instability in financing old-age programs such as Social Security and Medicare.

“When fewer women are married, fewer babies are born. In fact, about half of the decline in fertility since 2008 can be attributed to changes in marital composition, according to an analysis by Lyman Stone,” Wendy Wang, director of research at the Institute for Family Studies, said in the recently published research brief.

Gallup research shows that since 2015, less than 50% of U.S. adults have been registered as married, a decline over the years from a consistent 64% between 1978 and 1983. Since the Great Recession in 2007, marriage and fertility rates have been consistently declining.

According to data cited in Wang’s brief, marriage significantly impacts fertility rates because women who are married have a higher fertility rate than unmarried ones. In 2020, for example, the birth rate for married women was 81 per 1,000 between the ages of 15-44. It was just 39 per 1,000 for unmarried women of the same age.

She noted that an American woman is expected to have about 1.6 children in her lifetime, which is well below the population replacement level of 2.1 children per woman.

“Simply put, other things being equal, if the marriage rate had remained the same since 2008, the U.S. fertility rate would have been around replacement level,” Wang said.

However, a YouGov survey by the IFS and the Wheatley Institution shows that the top reason people cite for not having the number of children they desire is, “I am still looking for the right spouse/partner.”

Some 44% of Americans ages 18-55 who desire to have children (first or more) stated this reason compared to 36% who cite financial reasons, and 25% who blame their lifestyle and career choices.

“Finding the right spouse/partner is especially important among childless adults. A majority of childless adults who want children (60%) cite this as a reason for their unmet fertility desire, compared with 16% of parents who want more children,” Wang noted.

Only 37% of childless adults cited financial reasons for not having children, while 28% pointed to their lifestyle or career choices for not having children.

In "The Puzzle of Falling US Birth Rates since the Great Recession" by Melissa S. Kearney, Phillip B. Levine and Luke Pardue, published in the Journal of Economic Perspectives earlier this year, researchers noted that they saw no signs that the trend in falling fertility rates would change anytime soon and suggested that changing cultural norms are driving the decline.

“While the decline is concentrated among women in the under 30 age group, the decline is generally widespread across demographic subgroups, which gives reason to suspect that the dominant explanation for the aggregate decline is likely to be multifaceted or society-wide. We see no indication in the data that there is likely to be a reversal of these trends in the near future,” the researchers noted.

“If period-and location-specific factors generally cannot explain declining birth rates, perhaps the cause has to do with changes in the cohorts of women moving through their childbearing years. Shifting priorities among more recent birth cohorts — potentially driven by changes in preferences for having children, aspirations for life, and parenting norms — would represent a more universal, harder-to-quantify factor that may be the key driver of the decline in birth rates in the United States (and elsewhere),” they said.

“This line of explanation is potentially related to a concept referred to by demographers as the ‘second demographic transition.’ Our conclusion briefly considers the societal consequences for the United States of a declining birth rate — such as reduced productivity growth and instability in the finances of programs to support the elderly like Social Security and Medicare — and what might be done about it,” the researchers added.

Wang’s brief suggested that government assistance that incentivizes having more children could help the declining fertility rates. She noted that nearly half of parents who desire more children, 49%, and 43% of childless adults who want children say a child allowance, such as $300 per child per month, would make them more likely to have children.

According to Kearney, Levine and Pardue, pronatalist policies that make it more affordable for families to have children, such as subsidized childcare, parental leave policies and child allowances or tax credits, won’t solve the current fertility challenges.

“The evidence about pronatalist policies that have been implemented and evaluated in the United States and in other high-income countries suggests that these types of policies lead to modest increases in birth rates in the short-term but are unlikely to lead to sustained higher birth rates,” the researchers said.

“We see no particular reason to believe that a pronatalist public agenda will have much effect on birth rates (although, of course, some parts of that agenda may be desirable for other reasons). Thus, the most appropriate way to address declining US birth rates may be to address its two main symptoms directly: that is, a greater emphasis on technological improvements, along with investments in human capital and productivity-enhancing infrastructure, and a greater emphasis on putting the finances of Social Security and Medicare on a secure basis for the long-term,” they explained.

“The US economy and political system will need to contend with these issues if the recent, sustained decline in birth rates is not reversed.”

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We have a pandemic of narcissism in America feed by fantasia where loyalty and fidelity mean a constant state of entertainment.

The smallest infraction a words said out wokism will end a relationship. like all victim-hood marriage has become one more cult of self-centrism due to so many distraction of materialism and free sex for all the hundreds of gender perverts.

Sex is pleasure, marriage is commitment, sacrifice, hard work and much forgiveness which is impossible in a society that will destroy each other over words. We are reaping a whirl of self-plagues for sheer mental laziness where females wait on children hand and foot and will not let a man make a mistake; finding ourselves in a total dependent society on government where kids never leave home!